Posted by daisym on November 22, 2005, at 20:04:27
In reply to Dang that fighting to relationship!, posted by Dinah on November 21, 2005, at 23:01:04
I feel so sad about all the ripple effects that Katrina continues to have on your life. You don't deserve any of this...no one does.
I have this wacked out idea that you can grieve the "old" relationship and use the grieving process to help you fight to a (new) relationship. My guess is that along the way you will figure out if the new relationship is a therapy relationship or not. I don't think you can or should give up instantaneously. It is a process that might feel like letting go and holding on at the exact same time. I don't think you trust how strong you've become but I hear you missing your emotional side and the nurturing connection you could count on. We all need to feel that, it feeds our soul and renews our capacity to give to others.
Maybe you don't need to know what comes next yet. Things are changing so much, perhaps it is a week to week thing for now. If you don't do too much future planning, there is less disappointment.
I wish I could do more for you but I'm holding both of you in my thoughts and prayers. The whole thing sounds so painful.
(((Dinah)))
poster:daisym
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