Posted by Dinah on November 22, 2005, at 19:26:49
In reply to Too sensitive -- need advice, posted by daisym on November 22, 2005, at 0:44:54
Maybe it just tapped into the natural resentment that comes with living with someone who's sick. It seems like their needs always come first. That you don't have any right to complain about their bad behavior.
Your therapy and your therapist are very important things to you on an emotional level. Maybe it's natural to worry that your husband's needs will overwhelm your last bastion of safety. Especially since your therapy is currently focused on putting your own needs first sometimes. A little fear of retribution from your husband's needs might be sort of a natural expectation (though not of course warranted).
Your therapist and your therapy are just for you, and there's no threat that your therapist will take your husband's side against you. Whatever he says about your husband's motivations are said with an eye to *your* best interests. He's on your side trying to understand your husband, and make your home life as comfortable as possible.
If that makes sense?
poster:Dinah
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