Posted by Dinah on November 14, 2005, at 10:52:25
In reply to Btw, I told him., posted by orchid on November 14, 2005, at 6:35:49
I'm glad he responded well. :)
Don't beat yourself up about not telling him before. I think a lot of sensitive people realize how bad they'd feel if someone told them something like that, and wish to spare the other person pain (especially if we really love them). I know I'm always shocked to my toes when people don't take those things badly, but they rarely take them as badly as I do. (I pretty much quit going to church after getting what I felt was an unneccessary "moving along handshake" from my pastor.)
But...
The difficulty is in following through. Because there's a 99% chance you're going to have to follow through a few times. Make sure you're firm about it. There's no reason you can't be both firm and loving, you know. It'll give you good practice for your kids.
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