Posted by allisonross on October 27, 2005, at 7:57:19
In reply to Re:Tamar: Bending Boundaries/or: Abusing Mysel » allisonross, posted by Tamar on October 26, 2005, at 13:56:55
> Hi Alice,
Hi, Tamar!
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> Thanks for your response. Yeah, I can understand that not getting hugs any more must feel like a rejection. Ouch.Yup, really bites. Espcially since I am alone (divorce) now.
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> It sounds as if you feel comfortable with the double-entendres and the chemistry between you.Yes, i do.
From what you say, you don’t feel he’s harassing you. And that’s good!
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> But it does sound as if you might benefit from a chat with him about boundaries. Especially if you’re feeling pulled one minute and pushed the next.Well, I know what I should do. i have no problem in confronting him on anything that bothers me, but I can't risk losing the fun part right now.
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> Thanks for the example of his use of double entendre. It’s certainly more flirtatious than anything my therapist ever said to me. I’m trying to imagine those words with my therapist’s voice and that look on my therapist’s face… I think it’s funny. But I think if he’d said something like that in a session I would have blushed so much!Oh, I do blush, and tell him things like he is so bad!
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> I imagine a lot of people here would agree that their therapists don’t usually talk with them like that. I know you say you like it. I can imagine you want it to continue. And yet I can also imagine that many people might think it was a little inappropriate.It is.
However, your therapy is your own personal thing and I’m not going to criticise it!
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> So I guess I’d ask you: do you think it’s therapeutic for your T to flirt with you in session?Definitely therapeutic for me.
If so, how is it helping you?
Simple one. It is fun. I enjoy it. I am of the life is short, have fun scenario.
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> Of course, you don’t have to answer my questions if you don’t want to!> Oh, I don't mind at all. I am honored that you would care enough to ask.
> Take care,
> TamarYou, also Tamar. Hugs and grins to you.
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