Posted by daisym on October 21, 2005, at 20:02:38
In reply to I still get confused, posted by Dinah on October 21, 2005, at 19:08:33
Me too. I think this is a damned as you do and damned as you don't thing.
distraction can also be called denial. Denial they tell us is BAD.
Self-soothing can also be called selfish or self-centered. Those are BAD too.
*sigh* I really like my therapist's stance on this. He says, "whatever works, works. Screw the shoulds, and shouldn'ts. As long as you aren't hurting yourself." He is talking about the short term survival, get through the days, strategies of course.
I wish I had the answers for you, Dinah. I guess I like how Alex put it, change or acceptance, knowing they will switch on and off continually.
Hang in there.
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