Posted by Tamar on October 21, 2005, at 18:23:05
In reply to Well, apparently I have poor tolerance, posted by Dinah on October 21, 2005, at 17:56:49
> That's the conclusion of T2 and T3 both shared in the second meeting. So I suppose there's a consensus. :)
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> They think I have a hard time tolerating anxiety or other strong emotions, so I use less than ideal ways of distracting myself. When what I should do is sit with the pain.Does anyone have an easy time tolerating anxiety? Hands up everyone who finds it simple!
> Something like that.
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> I think she's got a hard job ahead of her, to tell the truth. I'd rather have less pain, not tolerate the pain I have better.Yes, exactly. But on the other hand, is there any way to make the pain less except by learning to tolerate it? If it’s out of our control, perhaps we need to find ways of learning to live with it. I don’t know any way to prevent it happening in the first place…
> I'm supposed to add to my self soothing repertoire, though for me it's hard to distinguish self soothing from distraction, except one is admired and the other disapproved of.
Yeah. I know what you mean. I still don’t think I really know the difference. And I reckon that some of the techniques other people use to self-soothe I find are distractions for me (like exercise, though as a distraction it’s excellent). There’s only one thing I can think of that really soothes me (apart from sleep) so I guess I need to add to my repertoire too…
Tamar
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