Posted by cricket on October 20, 2005, at 15:42:08
In reply to Re: Worst Ever (trigger) » cricket, posted by alexandra_k on October 20, 2005, at 15:05:02
Hi Alex,
I think based on your message above we are in a similar place.
so he can undermine your self confidence completely? so he can reinforce your suspicion that you are cold and uncaring and incapable of genuine caring connections with other people?
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yes, those are exactly the areas where I feel like he has done the most harm. My self confidence has dropped since I've been seeing him. That is consistent. But I used to think he was telling me that I could make a connection with other people. But no more. In the last several months, and it really all started back with that dream where the little girl tried to return his phone call (remember the this is a very negative transference dream).
he throws that back on you and doesn't take responsibility for his contribution to the unhelpful dialectic.> and so... he undermines your confidence in yourself. i don't see how that helps...
I wonder if that is what is happening to my confidence. I say I know you don't like so and so and he says I have no problem with them you have a problem with yourself. So everything is back on me. And even if it's true that it is all me. He doesn't help me figure out what to do.
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