Posted by alexandra_k on October 20, 2005, at 15:05:02
In reply to Worst Ever (trigger), posted by cricket on October 20, 2005, at 12:52:14
hey. sounds like you have been having a pretty hard time of it with your t. i mean... sometimes you come away from a good session where he has said some stuff to get you thinking, or some stuff that has been helpful. but mostly... you seem to feel more distressed after seeing him / talking to him than you felt before you went.
and as for the 'is it me or is it him' thing... i guess its just the both of you together and sometimes that happens and it isn't anyones fault but that is the way it is.
>He said "you are suspicious of anyone like me who wants to help."
and given some of the stuff he says to you its no wonder!
> I said no she wouldn't have. He said, "She wouldn't have? Well that doesn't sound like her to me. That's very different from the way I see her."and of course the way he sees her is just the way she must be because he knows you better than you do - right???!
you pay him a lot of money... for what? for an encounter with robo-therapist? so he can tell you in an authoratative tone that you are *just like* your abusers? so he can undermine your self confidence completely? so he can reinforce your suspicion that you are cold and uncaring and incapable of genuine caring connections with other people?
maybe its just where i am at at this point but i would say...
its your money.
you need someone to help you have more confidence in yourself and your ability to know yourself and relate to yourself and to other people too. not sure whether he is helping or harming... but there has gotta be someone else out there who is more respectful and ultimately more helpful for you...maybe it where i'm at but i would say... i'd have had enough of him about now. you have tried talking to him about being cold and what does he do? he throws that back on you and doesn't take responsibility for his contribution to the unhelpful dialectic. he doesn't take responsibility for his defensive body language and defensive things he says...
and so... he undermines your confidence in yourself. i don't see how that helps...
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