Posted by fairywings on October 18, 2005, at 10:06:41
In reply to Re: Your therapist **trigger** » fairywings, posted by Emily Elizabeth on October 18, 2005, at 9:50:10
> IF you DO decide to find a new t, you might consider a woman. Not that there aren't some bad female t's out there, but I wonder if a woman might have some sensitivity about absue-related issues, particularly if they involve sexual abuse. I also think that a female t might be able to view your mom's behavior in a more balanced way that your t did. Yes, she too suffered a lot, which partly explains why she did what she did. But she was still an adult who had a duty to you as a child. There is no excuse for not protecting you.
Thanks EE, I might just have to give a female T another chance. I've never been able to attach.
Maybe I just haven't found the right one.My guess is that my Ts story is so parallel to mine that he has trouble separating the two? And his mom was abused by his dad, so maybe she wasn't abusive toward him, and maybe he has troubling seeing my mom as abusive? That doesn't make it right, but might explain his feelings. I guess it's up to me to set him straight if we continue. Maybe he doesn't want me as a patient, and that would hurt too.
> Hope you are taking care of yourself. I was really shocked by the incident that you described w/ your T. If it helps, I'm really angry at him on your behalf!
I'm fine, thanks for caring, it means a lot to me. and thanks for being mad. It did really hurt me.
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