Posted by JenStar on October 17, 2005, at 0:16:19
In reply to I don't feel the same way, posted by Dinah on October 16, 2005, at 21:43:38
hi Dinah,
it sounds like he's struggling and lost too.Maybe he has that feeling we were talking about in another post - that HE needs someone else to be the "grownup" and he doesn't want to be one anymore, either!
It sounds like he's reaching out to you as another person, and not anymore like a therapist. Or at least he's struggling with the boundaries. Whether that's a good thing or not, I don't know...although it seems scary and weird to deal with that on top of everything else in your life.
I'm certain that the last thing he wants to do is mess you up right now (as certain as I can be without knowing him at all!) by crossing and recrossing boundaries, but maybe he's just not able to be be a rock-solid therapist right now -- too many worries of his own intruding? He's flip-flopping between being the therapist/grownup and a kid/person who needs help himself?
I think it's good to keep the appt with him. Maybe you can talk about all this and figure out what's happening.
It's all so much, isn't it? I'm sorry!
Have you had luck finding another therapist locally for you to try short or long-term?
take care,
JenStar
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