Posted by daisym on October 16, 2005, at 22:35:27
In reply to I don't feel the same way, posted by Dinah on October 16, 2005, at 21:43:38
I'm not sure things can ever go back to the way they were. But that doesn't mean that the changes can't lead to a different kind of satisfying relationship.
Have you thought that part of what is going on is about how strong you've been? I know that things are hard, and there are minutes, hours and days you want to give up. But you haven't. You've been coping, taking care of yourself and those around you. Perhaps (in my most gentle voice) you don't need him to hold you together like you use to. This isn't a bad thing. It shows how well you know yourself and what you need...and therapy has helped you discover that.
Life never goes backwards. Your future with your therapist may need to be a fresh start, because I don't think he is the same person he was before Katrina. And you aren't either.
It is lonely though, isn't it? That is what I hear most in your post...so much loss. I wish i could help more.
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