Posted by fairywings on October 3, 2005, at 22:59:02
In reply to Re: Answers ... more than you wanted to know .... » fairywings, posted by Annierose on October 3, 2005, at 15:54:47
> I quit mid-session, after she awkwardly disclosed she was pregnant. I never spoke to her again (although I think she called once to try to talk about why I walked out & schedule one more appt).
Very interesting. Did you ever figure out what it was that made you quit so abruptly? did the two of you go back and work that out?
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>Wow you went through SO much! Did your husband or child get therapy?
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> Anyway, that Christmas (2003), I had sent my previous T a Holiday card. I didn't write anything in the card, just sent it. She wrote back a very short note, wishing me well. I flipped out. I didn't know what I was feeling, or what I wanted to do with the feelings, so after a month, I called to make an appointment.That was really brave. It's great that you took advantage of her response and recognized your feelings and went with them and called her. You're very in touch, that's good.
>> We started with once a week, but I kept adding second sessions all the time. Then by Fall (of last year) I asked if I could come three times a week. So to finally answer your question, I just asked. Knowing she was psychodynamic in theory, I was comfortable with asking (i.e. the more you come, the more you get out of it).
So, how do you know if someone is psychodynamic? I asked my T what kind of therapy he practiced and he just said basically he used a corrective emotional experience. He said it in a more round about way, but ....
I think it's great that so many people are able to go more than once a week. I feel like I'm crawling along at a snail's pace, and it will take me forever! It ever! To get anywhere, and it the meantime things keep coming up.>
> To answer how am I able to be so open? ... I owe a great deal of my openness to Babble ... so many posters helped give me the courage to just say what I really want to say (although I fall short all the time too). Dinah, GG, Daisy, Pfinstegg, Fallsfall, Tamar (I'm sure I'm leaving people out) their stories, their relationship with their T's, are such a source of inspiration. Plus, I am fairly open by nature. I'm not shy. But it's quite different to be so vulnerable in therapy.That's awesome, and I agree, it does help to know that other ppl are out there with the same feelings, having the same things go on, and that T's are okay with the feelings, and it's okay to express them.
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> Didn't think my reply would get so long. Thanks for asking and reading!!I fully appreciate every word! Thank you a million times over for your thoughtful reply!
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