Posted by greyskyeyes on September 28, 2005, at 9:57:43
In reply to Re: Don't know how to bring this up with T (trigger?), posted by Shortelise on September 28, 2005, at 0:37:35
Meltdowns ARE a lot rarer these days, so I guess therapy is helping. It's just such a slow process.
I asked myself last night, what's the point of this? I tell her things, she responds and validates my feelings, doesn't reject me, it feels nice, woo hoo but where am I going to go from there? But you're right... modeling good behavior is just what we need. We learned our responses and coping mechanisms through exposure to improper behavior, so exposure to good behavior, to caring and kindness, enables us to unlearn the negative and then relearn responses that are positive. (does that make sense? I need more coffee) Again, it's a slow process... but so was it a slow process to learn the original behavior.
Thank you ShortE, you really seem to understand me. I can't tell you how much I appreciate that. :)
~ grey
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