Posted by fairywings on September 27, 2005, at 12:48:07
In reply to Re: Don't know how to bring this up with T (trigge, posted by greyskyeyes on September 27, 2005, at 9:55:50
> Sigh... my husband is a very understanding and loving man but he just doesn't seem to understand this. I feel as though he thinks I do it on purpose. I was "in remission" for the first 10 years of our relationship, so this is still relatively new to him. He is supportive but deep down, I think he still has a hard time understanding mental illness and seemingly irrational responses. But that's what joint sessions are for, right?
Hi Grey,
After I read this it occurred to me that the stress of my "illness" didn't overwhelm me until after the birth of our 4th child, then it was just too much for me, and I've been overwhelmed so, so much of the time since then. The point I'm trying to make is that being a mom can be so overwhelming, maybe that's part of the difficulty when you get stressed out. My husband is also very loving, kind, and patient, but sometimes I think he thinks he has just one more child on his hands - when I'm in tears, when I'm complaining about my past, when I'm pitching a fit. LOL (of course he can be a kid too, but...)
I think it's great that you have joint sessions, but my T told me not to ask my husband's opinions on what's going on with me when things are going wrong because he said that he just doesn't understand "these things". I still talk to him about things, just don't let him tell me there's something wrong with me.
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