Posted by fairywings on September 4, 2005, at 22:07:24
I was putting some stuff in writing to give to my new T. Because it covered the timeframe which included the rape, I told him about the appointment where my ex-T took the personal phone call. Keeping in mind that they work together, that their offices are across from one another, and I don't know if they're peers or one is the others boss. I don't want my ex-T to get into ANY trouble, and I don't want to be dumped for any reason, is there any chance that I'm risking either of those by saying this to him? I like the ex-T, he's not a bad guy, he actually did me a lot of good. I like the new T a lot and don't want him to terminate me. My T does know the ex-T took two personal calls during appts., but he doesn't know the content of what was being discussed during those appts.
This is what I said:
"I told (ex-T's name) just a little of this, but my perception was that he didn’t want to hear some of it. The appointment where he took the personal phone call was when I told him I was raped in high school. It was a leap of faith to try to talk about it, and he wasn’t fully present. (Just an aside: my oldest daughter is a freshman in hs and recently attended her first hs football game.) I’ve given the basics of what happened, but I don’t want to go into it, it just wasn’t helpful. I’ve never told anyone the details, not even my husband, and I really don’t want to go into it."
Then I went on and talked about what happened between the ages of 15-17.
any thoughts?
thanks,
fw
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thread:550770
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