Posted by happyflower on September 4, 2005, at 21:52:38
In reply to Re: Where we left off...........***trigger*** » fairywings, posted by Tamar on September 4, 2005, at 14:18:40
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>> I don’t know why talking works either, but it worked for me. I told my therapist I didn’t want to say the words out loud because it would make it all seem real… but he said that maybe naming my experiences and describing them could give me power over them, or something like that.I agree with your T about this. I for years didn't want to admit that my parents physically abused me. If I did, then that would have made me "damaged goods". "Damaged goods don't become successful or deserve a good life." These denied facts keep me going in life. But there was always something not right about me . A sadness inside. So I kept the memories inside of me forever until EMDR uncovered those repressed memories of the abuse.
This was the hardest moment in my life when this happened. I couldn't fake it anymore, I had to accept that I was abused, very badly, cruely.Well the first time in my life I had to admit it happened. Admitting it, did take away the control it had over me, and now I feel like I have the control over it. It was a major turning point in my therapy. It is hard to explain, but facing the abuse (when you are now safe) will help you deal with it and heal.
It is hard, but with your new T , I feel you will do great. You are good person, Jazzy, I can't wait until the fail of unhappiness comes off your life. You deserve to have full happiness! ((((JAZZY)))
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