Posted by happyflower on August 27, 2005, at 10:36:24
In reply to Re: Almost left a message for my T , but couldn't » happyflower, posted by cricket on August 26, 2005, at 19:52:28
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> But it sounds like your problem is very different. You two have felt an affinity for each other from the start, right? So when your therapist discloses it must feel more like courtship or at least friendship. Although you didn't say what he discloses, I suspect it might be more than a fondness for peanut butter sandwiches.Yes you are right, I have felt something for him from the beginning ( I still don't know what exactly). You post made me laugh. The stuff he is disclosing is about his personal interestes. Like he loves gardening and so do I, he loves a lot of the same music as me. But why didn't he disclose this stuff to me when he KNEW it about me. Why did he wait?
I don't feel like he has stopped being my therapist, he is still helping me a great deal. I don't feel he is seducing me at all. I admit there is an attraction between us, but I would be totally shocked if he ever acted on it. His boundries have relaxed some, but I don't feel he is crossing anything. All I know is that I really like him as a person, now that I know a more about him. If we were not married, and he wasn't my T, I would 100% pursue him. But reality sometimes sucks. I am scared of liking him too much and getting close to him during therapy and then losing all of that after I am done. I am so confused about all of this.
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> I can certainly understand how it feels good and you don't want to lose it.
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> One thing I guess you have to think about is it fair for you to pay to be his confidante. Something to think about.
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