Posted by cricket on August 26, 2005, at 19:52:28
In reply to Almost left a message for my T , but couldn't, posted by happyflower on August 25, 2005, at 16:14:35
Hi Happyflower,
It's strange about therapist disclosure. My therapist and I have very little in common and sometimes he will self disclose just to try to form a bit of a bond between us I think. But his disclosures are things like "I like peanut butter sandwiches too," or even things like "I was an angry adolescent too," with a quick "but of course I didn't have a fraction of the reasons for it that you did." And I appreciate his attempts even if they don't exactly make me feel like his soul mate :-)
But it sounds like your problem is very different. You two have felt an affinity for each other from the start, right? So when your therapist discloses it must feel more like courtship or at least friendship. Although you didn't say what he discloses, I suspect it might be more than a fondness for peanut butter sandwiches.
I can certainly understand how it feels good and you don't want to lose it.
One thing I guess you have to think about is it fair for you to pay to be his confidante. Something to think about.
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