Posted by happyflower on August 25, 2005, at 20:18:22
In reply to Re: Almost left a message for my T , but couldn't » happyflower, posted by daisym on August 25, 2005, at 19:53:09
Daisy, I am not sure what I am feeling. I do like to see him at the gym, even though I haven't seen him for over a week. With more time between appoinments, it helps to see him to sort of connect with him, even if it is just a smile or a hi.
I was even thinking that termination will be easier because goodbye won't mean I won't ever see him again. In fact in the winter I will probably see him more since he can't exercise and run outside in the snow. I think my therapy will probably be done by then, unless really bad stuff happens in my marriage, like my DH leaving me for this other women.
What chapter in the book does it talk about what you said? I need to go to the bookstore again and check it out. I do like it when he shares stuff with me, our sessions have been going over almost 15-20 minutes just talking about "his" stuff, but it does relate to my stuff because I have found out that we really do have a lot more in common than I thought. But he used to be very stict about time boundaries, but now he takes time out of his lunch hours to talk "socially". It is like he ends the session, makes the next appointment, then we socailize. There is mutual attraction between us, even though neither on of us has disclosed that, but you can tell. Doesn't take a rocket scientist for that. Then add the fact that we love the same stuff, he is hard to resist thinking about. My marriage isn't going well either, so I do enjoy the extra attention I am getting from him. But I am scared too, I don't want to get hurt. But yet I really like him, and want to know everything about him, I feel so drawn torwards him as a person. The common interests are unbelieveable, really. I know I am not making much sense, I am so confused about my feelings. I feel they are more than transference. I just don't know. But I don't believe he would ever cross the boundry with me during therapy, but I can see it could maybe go somewhere after therapy. I just don't how to sort out these feelings without talking to him about it.
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