Posted by daisym on August 22, 2005, at 0:02:05
In reply to Re: Dasiy - how are you doing? » daisym, posted by annierose on August 21, 2005, at 22:48:20
You ask lots of good questions, Annie. I don't know if our therapists can help with the body sensations other than to normalize and interpret them, like most other things. When I was feeling sick, he reminded me to breathe and to just give it a minute. He quietly, very, very quietly said, "this means we are near something important, but we don't have to know what yet, we can inch up to it together." Knowing he won't rush in with an idea makes me feel safer. And he wants me to tell him about the body sensations, just like I tell him about my thoughts and feelings. When I told him my thighs were tight and there was pain in my "lower parts" he asked me if I was protecting this area, clenching to defend. He reminded me that I didn't need to, I was safe, that this was old and while what I was feeling was real, this time I could control it and consciously relax these muscles. It took a few minutes but it worked. He almost always follows up body memories by asking if I can feel little Daisy hanging around and if she has anything she'd like to tell him. I make this face at him and he now knows this means, "yes but I was't going to tell you." I've come to think that therapy is a little like dancing, or sparring, with a long-time partner. They know your moves, know when you are really on and know when you are distracted. And you them. I guess that is one of the benefits of frequent sessions.
I'm glad you shared your dream with your therapist. But I do know about that intense neediness that comes into play. Do you think it is because we feel like we have to check in about what we told them? I always wonder if he shakes his head and sighs after I leave. Or forgets me totally as the next client comes in and he starts thinking about their issues. Mostly I just want to check that he hasn't disappeared into the sunset...there is not real crisis going on. So I'm containing things between sessions, not calling. It is so hard, but I'm making it through. Still, I'm glad tomorrow is Monday.
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