Posted by Jakeman on August 6, 2005, at 1:15:20
In reply to Re: Lott: Q on getting attracted to older, wiser men » Jakeman, posted by Tamar on August 4, 2005, at 5:16:10
Ok to clarify a bit. Perhaps the soft male is the guy who is overly concerned about what he is expected to be, rather just being who he is. Often he has a lack of energy, decisiveness, holding to an ideal of politically correct sameness with females. I played that part for many years until I discovered I wasn't being me.
The sexual polarity, the ying and yang, does exist, in a very real and primal way. It exists I'm told in homosexual couples as well. One can argue that differences between men and women are learned. I don't know but I doubt that. Or some of it.
Sometimes the body is wiser than the mind and the ego. There's nothing wrong with being asexual, at the same time there's nothing wrong with letting your masculinity or femininity be fully expressed, and it fact celebrated.
(some day I'm going to learn the tango ;-)warm regards ~Jake
why am i the only man writing on this board?
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