Posted by Tamar on August 4, 2005, at 5:16:10
In reply to Re: Lott: Q on getting attracted to older, wiser men » Tamar, posted by Jakeman on August 2, 2005, at 22:37:11
> Do you prefer men to approach you or do you want to do that? Say at a public dance, or in a club.
There isn’t much of that kind of approaching in my life these days – I’ve been married for years! But when I was single I really didn’t care who did the approaching. If I saw a man I liked I’d go over and start a conversation. If men are put off by a woman saying hello, then they’re not the kind of men I want to get to know anyway! The only thing I dislike is when men who approach me don’t take the hint if I’m not interested. I hate having to say, “F*** off, I’m married!”
> I find women want men to take some intitiative. But the soft male may hang back and see what happens. He is usualy left out.
I find the opposite can also be true: some men like women to take the initiative. A man can be pleased if a woman finds him attractive enough to put herself on the line.
I’m not sure what you mean by ‘the soft male’… some men are a bit shy. And some men don’t really enjoy the club scene. I think there are men who find it difficult to approach women they don’t know, but they can get to know women through mutual friends or at work. So I don’t think men are necessarily left out; there are lots of ways to start a relationship. It’s more difficult to have a one night stand if a man isn’t prepared to approach women, but some men aren’t very interested in one night stands…
Tamar
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