Posted by pinkeye on July 11, 2005, at 19:40:16
In reply to Worst I’ve felt in months, posted by Tamar on July 11, 2005, at 18:39:19
(((Tamar)))
Here are some warm hugs for you.
What is happening at work? Can you write more? Maybe I can help. Remember the one thing about work - whatever you are doing, the one thing you need to make sure is that you are adding value to the company or the school..That is the only thing you need to remember - how to add value to this place and people.. As long as you go by that, you should be in pretty good shape. IT doesn't matter if you fail badly sometimes.. people are usually pretty good at allowing down times for others.. people sometimes slack off due to personal reasons for even up to 6 months, and companies and other places are good in understanding that and accommodating it.. They don't really fire people unless there has been a consistent very poor performance over a year, and that too, if it didn't improve after feedbacks.
So if you think you have not done enough, maybe being upfront about it, and asking for some suggestion from manager/higher ups could help to change the situation. Try to ask your higher up, what he/she expects out of you.. Ask them for any feedbacks or clarification that you need. If you are in doubt, ask. Don't assume somethings are going to work - just be outright and ask if that is what is expected out of you..
These are some general tips.. But if you want, babble mail me, and if I can think of some way to approach it, I will write back - pinkeye_babble@yahoo.com
Don't worry now abour your husband and daughter.. They know you, and they are not going to take it out on you for being down for sometime. They know you are a lovely person. I am sure you can count on them to be supportive..
And your Ex T.. well, I am sure he will remember you in a warm way.. and you can go back to him in the future if this trend continues for some more time.. I know we miss them the most when things go bad, and maybe if you have some notes written from your old sessions, you can look at them.. or if you can remember some nice things he told you in the past, you can remember them.
I am here if you need to talk.
Hugs,
Pinkeye
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