Posted by pinkeye on July 11, 2005, at 15:38:58
In reply to Re: [trigger?] T back from vacation, rough session » pinkeye, posted by GreySkyEyes on July 11, 2005, at 15:18:06
Of course you are not a monster or what you did was unforgivable or anything. Spanking is not the right thing to do, but minor spanking is not cruel or unforgivable (atleast in my opinion).. If it is an aggressive assault that is a different story, but minor spanking is forgivable, especially considering that you are taking steps to reconsider and correct it. And I know you love your kid.
I wouldn't report it if I were your T. I would see if it gets out of hand or becomes more aggravated. Or maybe just ask your husband to come to a session and explain to him, and ask him watch out for it.
I think if you explain to your husband, he would understand it.. and of course promise him that you wouldn't do it again and stick to the promise. It is easy to take our depression and anger on helpless little ones, and I think many of us would get very tempted to do it, but the right thing to do is to be able to control ourselves better.. Maybe practice some form of meditation - that might help as well.
I wouldn't worry too much about it if I were your T.. but then I don't know about your T - she has her license to worry about and she might be acting more on that aspect than on really judging what you did. I am sure if she didn't have the license to worry about, she wouldn't worry about it.
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