Posted by pinkeye on June 30, 2005, at 22:45:55
In reply to What a waste of time » pinkeye, posted by pinkeye on June 30, 2005, at 21:14:48
If I give them this larger than life status, and hold them in that position, then I get extremely reactive to each of their mistakes. And I eventually end up blaming them anyway. So why even go there in the first place? It is kind of like raising a person to the sky and then making them fall down deep..
I did that to my father, maybe he deserved it.. But I did it again to my ex T also.. Kind of think the world of him, and then put him down.. If I didn't give him too much of importance in the first place, then I wouldn't be so affected by the termination and his mistakes, and I would have been more stable in my view..
IT is not fair what I am doing to them as well.
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