Posted by spalding on June 29, 2005, at 11:04:52
In reply to Interesting question about our hubbys and Ts wives, posted by pinkeye on June 28, 2005, at 20:00:46
Kind of rambling here...
I used to be on a kick where I had only female doctors, but I uniformly found them condescending to me, so now I'm going only with men. :)
When I found my pdoc (I wasn't referred and found him on my own), I went with a male, and when he gave me possible T.'s to start seeing, I went with the one male on the list. (And boy, is he tough and I think he's great.)
I am attracted to my pdoc but that's as far as it goes. I'm very sure my T. is gay, so there's no attraction there, but there's a lot of warmth, respect and common ground. Pdoc and T. work together on a handful of patients so I feel incredibly cared for.
My husband doesn't have a problem with me having two men on my team. As Miss Honeychurch said, I think he's happy I'm getting help after years and years of undiagnosed BPD.
Though I do have had a problem of often isolating myself and not talking to my husband. I live in my head a lot and don't easily let him in. I am working on this. Though once when he and I were having a conversation and he gently expressed his frustration with me, he said, "I see you having these great relationships with your doctors..." Probably the first time he's acknowledged that.
As far as pdocs' and T.s' significant others...I would assume confidentiality would prevent pdocs and T.'s from discussing their patients (and subsequent issues of attraction/love/fantasies) with anyone, including spouses and sig. others.
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