Posted by alexandra_k on June 28, 2005, at 22:46:45
In reply to Interesting question about our hubbys and Ts wives, posted by pinkeye on June 28, 2005, at 20:00:46
I have wondered before about whether it makes a very big difference whether one has a male or a female t. I notice a HUGE difference with respect to the type of transference. Actually... There are other factors there too, such as the therapists age etc. But I did wonder for a while whether it would actually be helpful to have a t of each gender so as to work through the different sorts of transference (I was trying to justify seeing 2 t's at the same time...)
I'm not sure that things are supposed to work like that, though. I'm not sure that you do need to see a male t in order to learn how to bond emotionally with men. A female t could help you do that.
I don't know...
I have to say... I think I prefer seeing a male t.
But... I can surely understand why peoples partners wouldn't want them seeing a t where sexual feelings for the t were likely to come up. I think... If I was in a relationship I may well try and be sensitive to that by seeing a t of the same gender as me. But then that is still no guarantee that those feelings won't come up, so I don't know.I have wondered how I would feel about having a partner who is a t before. How I would feel about other people having those feelings for them. I guess... I would trust them. If they broke that even once by taking advantage of their client then that would be that. Relationship over.
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