Posted by pinkeye on June 23, 2005, at 19:09:14
In reply to Re: Getting Attracted/Falling in love - transference? » pinkeye, posted by alexandra_k on June 23, 2005, at 19:01:57
IF something works and if the marriage is good, then we just term it as an ideal love - even though they might have just married after 3 months of knowing each other.
If another couple married each other after 3 months of knowing each other and the marriage ends badly, then it is termed as transference or infatuation..
IF I married someone like my fahter and it worked well, it is not a bad thing at all.. If I married someone like my father and it didn't work, then it is bad and my psychology has to be analyzed to the depth to cure me..
Same thing applies to everything ... IF some guy quits a well paying job and pursues an impossible dream and makes millions out of it, then he is branded as a genuis. If the same guy pursues an impossible dream and ends up being not successful, he is branded as being "living in a dreamland" and he needs to have his head examined and needs to go through years of therapy.
Really it is all about the outcome.
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