Posted by annierose on June 21, 2005, at 16:38:00
In reply to Re: Very long, sorry. » annierose, posted by Dinah on June 21, 2005, at 14:41:57
I'm sorry for straying from your original post. But I understand what you are saying. I experience something similar, but I label it differently.
Not coming from a healthy frame of reference of good parenting skills, I feel somewhat stilted in my reactions to my children. I need to take a moment (or minutes) to think about what I should say or do, or shouldn't say or do. It's not a natural response. It's thought out, but I still feel authentic. I see it as a learning curve, and I'm still on the upswing.
My T really helps me in this area. She'll give me fantastic ideas for conversations I should have with my daughter. It's amazing how "on point" my T is with my daughter (whom she never met).
Yes, asking for the hug is a big deal. Maybe the actual hug didn't mean that much to you, but that he easily replied, "of course" (not his words, I know) was the big deal. That he cares so much for you.
Annierose
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