Posted by cricket on June 21, 2005, at 16:46:12
In reply to Re: Very long, sorry., posted by Dinah on June 21, 2005, at 13:03:41
> A fair number of people don't like me at all. Most of the people I know IRL in fact. Maybe it's that shorthand we were talking about in that other thread. My clothing choices are eccentric, my grooming is less than ideal, and I'm overweight. Added to a persistently unusual viewpoint, and I think people's shorthand doesn't lead to positive feelings towards me. :(
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Dinah,
I don't think I read the thread about the shorthand, but all the other stuff (eccentric clothing, a bit of dishevelment, unusual viewpoints) are things I love in people. Maybe that's why I don't have many friends, but it sure makes me wish I lived around the block from you.And believe me, in my neck of the woods, a little heft on a woman (and 200 pounds is barely enough) is considered a very attractive thing.
Anyway, I do understand what you mean about being afraid to be authentic with your son. For me though it's gotten easier as my son has gotten older. He's had enough of my nurturing as a base to begin to accept that his mom is just not like other moms and to be okay with that.
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