Posted by littleone on June 5, 2005, at 22:04:21
In reply to Re: Books as comfort » littleone, posted by Tamar on June 4, 2005, at 20:16:06
> Yes. Getting that comfort from your T does seem to be the ideal situation.
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> If you really feel you can't call him, can you talk to him about why you need him at weekends? I understand what you mean about needing to be comforted after things he's said and done. Argh!
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> Sending you big hugs. It's horrible to feel you're losing an area of support. Can you talk to your T about finding an alternative means of support?I might try. But I find "him" stuff or "us" stuff so hard to bring up. Even in writing. It's very threatening for me. A lot of my drawings feature him and ... I haven't even been able to finish this sentence. I was trying to say how bad it was to give them to him, but I can't even describe how bad it is.
Finding comfort in things is such a personal experience. What you find comforting, I may not. I kind of think it's something you need to experiment with and find for yourself.
I also find I don't really get any comfort from myself. I've tried nurturing myself by alternating writing with my dominant and non-dominant hands, but my child side closes up and tells me to go away. My adult side gets too easily distracted and hurts me more by not staying engaged.
I know I should try it some more, but *sigh*, nurturing really doesn't come to me very easily at all.
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