Posted by daisym on May 27, 2005, at 1:43:36
In reply to Chapter 2. Wanting to be special., posted by Dinah on May 26, 2005, at 19:33:57
I think this is why this chapter made me squirm. It is the topic that is "up" right now. I've fully admitted to wanting to be special and we've touched on sexual feelings and love around this. I said I was surprised by how much I really cared about him and he was surprised that this surprised me. Doesn't attachment = caring?
Today I told him I didn't want him to worry about me. He said he won't if I tell him I'm not going to harm myself but that he is still concerned and will think of me. *I* don't get to control *his* feelings. But if I want to be special to him, how come having him worry doesn't feel good?
The one thing I'm clear on is that I don't want him to need me back. Too many people in my life need me. I need a place where that doesn't happen. But she is absolutely right when she talks about how hard it is to tell your therapist your feelings about this. I guess that goes back to your relatinship together and the orientatin of the therapy.
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