Posted by pinkeye on May 19, 2005, at 13:45:51
In reply to Re: I am still in awe..babble is making me rethink » pinkeye, posted by sunny10 on May 19, 2005, at 9:02:29
> you're not "wrong" about any of what you project- you're human.
Ok. that makes me relieved. I worry that I project lot of inconsistent picture of myself.
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> Human are multi-faceted people. There are many strengths and weakness in all of us.Yeah. You are incredibly smart you know sunny? Lately I have been liking your posts a lot.
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> But, wow, this stuff with your parents?!?!? You really ARE much stronger than you think you are.Maybe I should give an explanation. In the past 10 years, my dad has changed quite a bit. Ever since I got my rheumatoid arthritis. He has mellowed down a whole lot more. So now I don't really fear him that much. Plus he is dependant on me now, and I am not dependant on him anymore. So there is no fear that much. And I know they love me and they know I love them, so that makes things a lot easier for me.
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> And who DOESN'T cry from time to time? I couldn't sleep last night because I was thinking about all of the inconsistencies in the lives of women today. We are bombarded with so many dictates on how we "should be", both strong and weak, it is hard to know what to do, what to expect from the men in our lives.Yeah.. I think lot of the confusion that I have is probably more applicable for lot more woemn in general nowadays. Changing roles and responsibilities and changing world I guess.
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> The only thing I came up with is the fact that no matter what others do or say, I can only do what's best for me on any given day.Maybe that is the approach that I should also take. But it is hard to know when to give in and when to not.
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> I rely on the Serenity Prayer and the phrase, "I'm doing the best that I can".
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> And from some of your other threads, it's sounds like you should definitely rethink your definition of yourself.I have been doing a lot of rethinking and redefining. It is not enough, but I think I am on the right track atleast.
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> You say you're weak and don't know what you need to be happy, yet you DO something so difficult in order to be happier and more peaceful about your relationship with your parents.
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> The rest of the world defines us by our actions, not our thoughts. We have to start doing the same and stop being our own worst critics, I think...
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