Posted by pinkeye on May 15, 2005, at 17:19:12
In reply to Re: Do any of you block your T or ex T out? » pinkeye, posted by JenStar on May 15, 2005, at 16:48:47
Yeah.. I think what you are saying is right.
Only thing I don't understand is how could my ex T terminate me like that? A mail one day and then stop all contact?I used to think he was a pretty sensible person, but I didn't like the way he terminated me. He could have given me some forewarning, or did a little gradual termination.
This abrupt out-of-the-blue mail one day and stop writing was really hard to take. But maybe I am the one to blame. Maybe I was abusing the privilege too much and he got fed up.
As to your question about how it might affect me in the future - I don't know. Many of what I felt was my transference, and now I know it was a lot and lot of transference on my part. So I am beginning to re-think what I used to feel about him. I mean, if it was really about my relationship with my dad and not about him, how valid could that be?
But I know basically he is a nice guy, very sensible, and had lot of common sense. And he wanted to help others. He could have afforded to have been a complete jerk. But he put in efforts to make something real nice out of himself and I apreciate it a lot. If I were in his position, I wonder if I would have even studied beyong my 12 th grade.
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