Posted by Shortelise on May 13, 2005, at 12:21:45
In reply to Re: another cycle, posted by daisym on May 13, 2005, at 10:35:41
> I think we all have different pieces of ourselves, some larger and some smaller, that cope differently with situations. And I think we work hard to keep our strongest pieces up front, to cope with the hard stuff. But when something triggers the old stuff, the more fragile piece, that comes to the forefront, and down we go.
That's is so true, Daisy, and does me good to read it so clearly explained.
> I think those competent parts are just dismayed that "we" can "still" feel hurt, confused, sad, anxious, or any of the above about what seems to not be an overwhelming situation. So we put pressure on ourselves to handle it, to do better, to not cry over spilled milk. And we insist we can hold it, deal with it ourselves...because after all, haven't we spent years in therapy learning to recognize these distorted responses and know where they are coming from?
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> I think every time these sad parts get triggered, we mourn all over again. Some of us mourn the fact that we have these parts at all!Now I see that one of the things that is really bothering me is that I don't know what the trigger is here. I mean, my post from a few days ago explains the situation, and it certainly brought back very bad memeories, but why this slide? Why this awful sadness? Yes, it's a failure of the front guard. And I do mourn my inability to roll with this punch. But most of all, I am confused. Why? Where is the depth of this coming from?
I have been trying all week to clean my room. My Room. I have my very own room, with a desk, a sewing machine, my art, all my things, and it's where I sleep because my husband snores unbearably. I love my room. But everything I try to do overwhelms me, except cooking.
Thanks very much, Daisy.
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