Posted by pinkeye on March 26, 2005, at 0:29:31
In reply to Re: tis been awhile » pinkeye, posted by Dinah on March 25, 2005, at 22:17:30
I don't know Dinah. A colleague of mine confessed to me that she has had 3 affairs in her marriage, and I don't find it difficult to take - her husband is physically somewhat handicapped and I find that I am able to accept her.
And I know in lots of marriages, one partner is just not what the other person expects - and they don't want to break the marriage because of kids - so in those cases, what to do? Go on throughout your life living in hell or atleast to have an affair and be ok with life?
I am not speaking of ordinary, good marriages. When both the parties are behaving well and like each other, an affair will be mind blowing. But when one of them is just not behaving well or being rude or being incosiderate, and the other person for some reason has to live with the marriage, then it might be acceptable if other person finds some solace elsewhere. I think it is a very humane thing.
But as for as a therapist goes - I can see your point - the other patients will be betrayed as well. So the wife, himself, the woman, and all the other patient getting hurt is probably not good. So yes, I also think a therapist having an affair with a patient and having his license revoked is not that good. Because it hurts his wife, himself, the woman in the end, and all the other patients.
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