Posted by Susan47 on March 25, 2005, at 20:22:33
In reply to Re: tis been awhile » Jadah, posted by pinkeye on March 21, 2005, at 19:04:33
I had to read three times the word "acceptable" before I believed it. It just doesn't sound right. I think because if the therapist's wife finds out what he's done she's going to be destroyed. And to me that is unacceptable BUT if he did it, she also has the right to know he did that. So it's horrible, the whole situation from the point of view of the T and his family is unacceptable I think, unless he and his wife have an open marriage, and that idea's not in vogue right now, there's not a lot of that going on because of all the diseases people can catch now, that brought heads up sharply; but I don't think it's wrong either, forive me for saying this I know it'll offend a lot of unfortunate people, but I don't think it's wrong to love more than one person at the same time, in the same way. I think it's quite wonderful, really. Look at Mormon wives, the ones who illegally engage in polygamy; the vast majority of them seems to love one another and their husband and all their children. It takes a lot of real human love and understanding to share love, period. Look at how jealous people can get over love. Isn't sharing love, then, looked at that way, isn't it a wonderful gift? I've thought about this I know people who engaged in that behaviour, and I suspect my husband does right now, but I don't know for sure, I mean, sharing a woman, that is ... but maybe that's just my mind. But you know, I know this. I know this woman well, she was a very very good friend of mine for a while, and she's a lovely person, she is, and I like her except for this thing she has to do all the time, like expose body parts to men, and her husband is the same way, he exposes himself to other friends of theirs. They never engaged in this behaviour when I was with them but I heard the stories about it from both of them, and sex in the backyard (they have no shrubbery at all, except for a bit at the very back) in a full moon, (actually that's wonderful, but they seemed to love the exhibitionism aspect of it, they always talk about almost getting caught, giving the neighbours a thrill, etc. I think that's kind of cool, really, okay, I don't know if I would ever attempt it but more secretively, it's great, fabulous, and if my ex is engaging in some wild behaviour in a "safe" way, I'm actually okay with that, I wish him well and I hope all three of them are happy. I think they are, actually. He seems a lot happier, lately. Nice guy.
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