Posted by annierose on March 24, 2005, at 17:24:50
In reply to T gone, big things coming up, posted by pegasus on March 24, 2005, at 10:19:43
Pegasus -
I can sympathize with you in regards to your T's absence and "big" things coming up (and I'm not about to give birth). Our T's are a major source of support, so it makes sense that when they are away, we feel a little uneasy.I like Shorte's advice on labor, except, add the epidural! For me, once I relaxed, I went from 2 to 10 in 15 minutes ... totally worth it. No one gets medals for having pain in childbirth. I too worried about the kind of mother I could be with my past. But you are already way ahead of the curve, you are already facing your past issues head-on. My T once said, there are (roughly) 2 types of parents,(this is not a direct quote, and just the "gist" of the 45 minute conversation): those that just repeat their childhood mistakes and those that actively try to make positive changes. I'm not a perfect parent, but a perfect one doesn't exist. I make mistakes, but I can and do admit them to my children (when appropriate). Most important of all to me, I feel a connection to my kids and they to me. It feels my heart with joy. And that can be so healing.
Good Luck with the 2 week break. Mine is away too, but I am also going away to visit my parents (very hard to do, but it's in a warm weather state, and I'm still in the COLD). Muddle through the best you can.
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