Posted by Shortelise on March 24, 2005, at 12:00:41
In reply to T gone, big things coming up, posted by pegasus on March 24, 2005, at 10:19:43
You sound really in tune with what's going on with you, why you are feeling the way you are. For me, that would be important. It's when things begin to feel mixed up, when I can't put a finger on the cause and effect of things, that I panic a little - sometimes a lot.
Because I chose not to have babies, I have made it a point to help others through pregnancies and deliveries, so I have more than the usual experience with pregnant women. Few and far between are the ones who feel they are "made" for motherhood, who await the birth of their children with benign calm and confidence. And those who do are often the ones who are hardest hit by the demands of it - they so expected it to be easy. It isn't, but the cool thing is that you have this wonderful little being that exists only to be loved by you.
As for labour, honey, it hurts. It hurts bigtime, it really does and don't believe it if someone says otherwise.
Here's a hint for an easier labour: think about opening your body and your mind to loving your child. I know this sounds airy-fairy, but it isn't. When we feel conflict about something, we can manifest it in our bodies, right? That's for sure, "proven", etc.
So when we are labouring to deliver a child, we need to be open to having that child - we need to reassure ourselves, and the baby, that s/he is coming into a good place, a place full of love and safety.You may find that when baby drops, and your body prepares for labour, that you are calm.
Pegasus, learning to love, learning kindness and empathy - in therapy - brought me out of the worst of the anxiety that has plagued me most of my life.
Having a child is the ultimate lesson in love. You and your husband are going into it eyes open. You'll be loving parents, which is what matters. You know what your baggage is, right? There's the battle mostly won already.I send you warm hugs, and to your worried husband, and love to the baby that is waiting in your belly to greet the world.
ShortE
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