Posted by judy1 on March 15, 2005, at 12:15:59
In reply to Sucking up all the Babble support, posted by daisym on March 15, 2005, at 1:16:00
Hi Daisy,
I'm so glad that you are able to find some peace here. I just wanted to share my experience. For two years I saw a female therp and a male pdoc who also gave therapy. Now that I no longer see either one I am able to put things in perspective. I truly felt that my pdoc was threatened by my relationship with my therp and would (in subtle ways) put her advice down. This made me feel somewhat like you do now, cofused and anxious. I cared very much for my pdoc, but his approach was radically different than my therp. He wanted to attack issues head on while my therp wanted to take her time, and given my fragile state at the time- I have to agree that my therp was right. I think most pdocs (in my experience) have a stronger egotistical behavior then therps (MSW, PhDs), pdocs feel their opinion is the only correct one while therps seem to be more open to input. I think you already know that your therp understands you more than your pdoc, and while the things that were said by your pdoc were distressing- they were not true for you. Try not to give your pdoc's words any more power then you already have, they are not helpful to you and downright hurtful. I hope by the time you read this you realize that your therp has your best interests at heart, understands your needs, and is obviously available to you. You are fortunate to have him, please use his support and be honest with your feelings like you were honest on the board.
Take care of yourself, judy
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