Posted by fallsfall on March 14, 2005, at 7:24:16
In reply to This has more me more freaked out than I thought, posted by daisym on March 14, 2005, at 0:13:08
Sweetie...
It is OK to want to feel connected.
Can you call him today during your usual time? If you aren't in charge of the meeting at that time, you can slip out. If you are in charge you can call a break. Or pull the old "I have to go to the bathroom....." It is OK to take time for yourself.
There is no need to "hold it together" all by yourself. He is there for you - let him help.
You *want* the connection. So *allow* it. You will miss it if you try to deprive yourself. So try to not deprive yourself (think of me and chocolate - I'm supposed to be reducing sugars and carbs, so I stopped eating bagels and pretzels and shredded wheat, but I do NOT restrict my chocolate. The bottom line is that my sugars and carbs are reduced, but I haven't deprived myself). You can't see him, but you can talk to him. Make it a priority. It's OK to do that.
Decide if there are parts of the meeting that you can skip - and then skip them. Tell people you aren't feeling well, and you need to rest. Where do you feel the anxiety? That's where you tell them you aren't feeling well ("My stomach is pretty queezy" or "I must have pulled a muscle in my chest because it hurts a lot"). It *IS* the truth.
You don't have to be superwoman.
Carry his picture in your pocket (and put your hand in your pocket to touch it when you miss him).
Call him. Ask him to leave you voice mails.
Read Babble.
Call me.
Do what you have to do for work - AND for yourself.
(((((...Daisy)))))...
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