Posted by Dinah on March 13, 2005, at 8:44:23
In reply to Visit to pdoc (long), posted by daisym on March 12, 2005, at 23:34:06
What she said reflected herself, her ways of working with people, and her feelings about dependency. Therapists vary widely in this regard. We've all heard of therapists who feel exactly like this woman suggested.
Never even mind you, or how well she knows you. How well do you know your therapist? You've seen him for how long? You *do* know that the standard CBT mindset is not his. You *do* know that she doesn't know him as well as you do and doesn't accurately report his values.
He was right to be angry with her. Angry for speaking for him, and for misrepresenting him.
My therapist's boundaries are different from your therapist's boundaries. Aphrodite's therapist's boundaries are still different. Etc. Many of us think our therapist's boundaries are *juuuust* right, and maybe they are - for each of us.
You should tell him the rest of what she said. You left out the most potentially hurtful part, and that's likely to fester until you share it. Share it and lance the boil.
Your therapist seems very clear on his boundaries. You can discuss them with him all you want, and try to decide what's best for you. But don't let a third party make blanket statements about how your therapist feels.
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