Posted by alexandra_k on March 13, 2005, at 0:15:30
In reply to Visit to pdoc (long), posted by daisym on March 12, 2005, at 23:34:06
Oh Daisy, I can see why he looked like he wanted to strangle her! I think that is why you aren't supposed to see two therapists at the same time - because you could end up with mixed messages like that.
Hard to know who / what to believe...
Sounds like you have a really terrific therapist though, and that you have made a lot of progress with him. Given that she doesn't really think medication will be of much benefit to you she is making a therapy reccomendation after having seen you how many times??? I would go with your therapist on those issues...
I have thought a bit about dependancy and resentment... But then if they did feel resentment then that would be counter-transference and any competent therapist would deal with it as such. If they are feeling overwhelmed then it is up to them to put up greater boundaries and be honest about why they are doing that. It might be a little hurtful - but it would prevent an unnecessary termination.
I would never ever phone therapists outside of session. My DBT therapist really wanted me to call her but I wouldn't. She used to call me once a week. But I still wouldn't call her. One day she asked me why. I said that I was afraid that I would do it too much and she would get sick of me. She said she would tell me it was too much before that happened.
I just needed to trust that she would do that.
I thought it would still be hurtful if she said it was too much. But it was a comprimise. And I felt safer knowing that if I was pushing it then she would tell me so that I could back off before she got sick of me.
Maybe you just need to trust him.
Sounds like your p-doc was just confirming your worst fears about therapy. And that that sort of undermined the messages your therapist was trying to give you.
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