Posted by Susan47 on March 11, 2005, at 10:24:58
In reply to Re: I quit therapy today » Skittles, posted by mair on March 11, 2005, at 8:05:58
I can really relate to what Mair said, Skittles, my T, the last man, hurt me greatly by refusing to process a huge amount of stuff with me. And Skittles, when I read your post the feelings I had with that man came flooding back, and I really understand because I was there with you, I've been there and I really would encourage you to see this T again before she decides to give up, as mine did. I can see the angry look on my ex-T's face, and I could feel your pain and confusion too. Don't feel responsible for her anger, please don't, she shouldn't have shown any anger at all, that part of what she did was really wrong but I'll bet she thought it would be helpful for you to see her disappointment; you're not able to deal with anyone's anger though, and maybe she should've known that. I think people who haven't actually been in our emotional shoes can't really understand the depth to which we take on the "stuff" of others.
Don't take this out on yourself, whatever you do, do NOT take responsibility for her feelings... she's the professional.
You deserve the best, you deserve to know that you're cared about and someone will be there with you to help you open up, not shut you down even more. But Daisy is right, she made a mistake she's probably blaming herself, give her the benefit of the doubt in this case if you can and don't throw away the work you've already done with her. She did fight for you by saying you couldn't just drop her without discussing it, right?
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