Posted by mair on March 11, 2005, at 8:05:58
In reply to I quit therapy today, posted by Skittles on March 10, 2005, at 21:13:34
Skittles, I absolutely agree with Daisy. Several years ago I got angry with a T right at the end of a session that was supposed to be our last for awhile. He was upset that I would part without explaining myself more. I went back later to apologize and he didn't seize that opportunity to start processing why I was so angry. Frankly our relationship was never the same afterwards, and what had made me so angry was never really discussed between us even though I continued to see him on an on and off basis for maybe another year and a half.
HUGE MISTAKE!!! I never really realized how hurt I was and how rejected I felt by him. My current T has spent alot of time trying to get me to see that this was something that needed to be processed and that he and I (but mostly he) was greatly at fault for not making sure this was done.
Hopefully, your T was only angry and reactive in the moment and won't let this just sit. She may, however, feel that this is really up to you to raise. You have to do it - it's too important not to. Hurt and rejection are obviously issues for you. If you don't try to set this right it will just reinforce for you that you can't let yourself get close to people.
Mair
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