Posted by fallsfall on March 8, 2005, at 20:21:28
In reply to Re: You have to change to be acceptable, posted by daisym on March 8, 2005, at 15:13:45
Ah, the old "can't" vs. "don't want to". But aren't we told that if we work hard enough in therapy that we "can". So doesn't that mean that if I "can't" that I'm not working hard enough to change that to a "can"? Maybe I still can't see that I have limits. When is accepting limits being "realistic" and when is it "giving up"?
Isn't it my responsibility to get better? Am I not failing if I don't? How long can I try to get better before I should admit that this is as good as it is going to get? I know I'm not there yet - but how do I know when I *am* there?
How do we know if I "can't" or if I'm just too stubborn to "can"?
Sorry to be so bitter. I do appreciate your compassion - I just can't find the same compassion for myself.
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