Posted by pinkeye on March 8, 2005, at 14:35:38
In reply to You have to change to be acceptable, posted by fallsfall on March 8, 2005, at 11:59:42
A person is acceptable in whatever state he or she is in.. does not matter whether you look beautiful, or if you work, or if you know how to cook, or if you are intelligent or smart.
But it may not suit the person for real life challenges, for instance, you don't have to work if you are born a multimillionaire. And a rich kid may never learn to work a day's worth of hard work in its life. But he/she will be able to get by with that, and people would most likely even praise them and hang around them. And in plenty of countries, women don't work. period. All they do is cook and take care of the house and kids. That is all they ever do. My mother does only that. Does that mean you are not acceptable ? No.
It just means, that you are ok with not working, but since you need money, you need to pick up the skills to work. Acceptance is different from being perfect. If you are perfect, you never need to change. But none of the human beings are perfect. All of us have some difficulty with something or the other in our lives and we all need to change that. If accpeting someone means that person has to be perfect, then none of us - including Bill Gates would be acceptable.
Does that help?
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