Posted by partlycloudy on March 8, 2005, at 20:12:29
In reply to Re: You have to change to be acceptable » partlycloudy, posted by fallsfall on March 8, 2005, at 19:53:59
I have spent most of my time in therapy on work and performance related anxiety. I have downgraded myself over several jobs so that now I am a receptionist - a job which I insist is low stress, yet; I have extremely well defined hours of work that are difficult to adjust (for appointments or crashes); I do a job no one else wants to do, and I've been at this place for almost 2 years and I'm only now becoming comfortable there.
Please, please, please - don't go back to anything full time before YOU are ready and eager to go back.
Don't think that you change to change YOURSELF - it's how you react to others' performance and behaviour on the job that you can change - not the fundamental Falls behind it.
It's OK to work within your comfort levels - and maybe this volunteer position is a good time to try to change your reaction to others' performances. Instead of making up others' shortcomings by doing it yourself, see what happens if you do *nothing*. What will happen? Really?
Also, lastly, I am grateful to my ex-husband for teaching me a most valuable life lesson (OK, apart from the 18 years we were married); and that is not to let myself be defined by the work I do.
hugs to you, Fallsfall.
pc.
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