Posted by LG04 on February 17, 2005, at 2:05:24
In reply to Re: My T bought me flowers.... » Poet, posted by shrinking violet on February 16, 2005, at 12:51:05
Hi SV,
I think it would be very hard to open up and talk to your T knowing that you have to terminate in a few months. very hard or even impossible. you have known all along that this relationship has to be a temporary one b/c of your situation at the university. that it would end before you would feel ready. so it makes SO much sense that it would stop you from opening up and going deeper and building more trust and all that.i experienced the same thing with my T b/c i also knew i'd have to end prematurely. it was only after she promised me that she would still be here for me and we could talk on the phone that i was able to continue with her. otherwise i couldn't have said a word. it would have been so painful. yet also painful not to use the time since i felt close to her and believed i could trust her. so the dilemma you must feel inside must be excruciating. and so understandable. and also so difficult to accept a gift, b/c again she is showing her caring and you know that you have to leave. it all makes so much sense given the position you are in.
try not to base any future possibilities of therapy on this one. i think that if you were with a therapist that you knew you could see for as long as you want, years or til death do us part, that you would find it easier to talk.
my thoughts are with you,
LG04
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