Posted by LG04 on February 17, 2005, at 1:48:50
In reply to T and Valentine's Day, posted by LittleGirlLost on February 15, 2005, at 15:02:30
my therapist lives in another country so she doesn't celebrate valentine's day but she's right now on vacation with her husband and i was absolutely eaten alive by jealousy these past two weeks, knowing she was going away alone with him. it was so hard for me to tell her about it but i did. i can't stand that her husband gets to spend all this intimate time with her.
i'm even jealous of their sexual relationship, even though i am not sexually attracted to my T. it's just that he gets to know her in an intimate way that i will never see. it's the emotional intimacy that they share in being sexual with each other that makes me so jealous. I hate these feelings. they are so painful. we talked about where they come from (most of it is related to my parents' relationship and what i felt and wanted from them) but probably there's a little bit that is the adult me who just wishes i could have more time with her and be THE most important and special person in her life as i assume her husband is. (though she says she doesn't look at relationships in that way...that each one is unique and different...but give me a break, obviously her husband is more important and special to her than any of her clients).
anyway talking to her about the jealousy does help.
it's interesting that now that she has left for the vacation, i don't really feel it. it was all in anticipation of her leaving for vacation. i don't know what that means. i'll have to ask her when she returns.
just know that you are definitely not alone on this one.
LG04
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